Ogres are like onions
Recently, I have been thinking about how much our actions/decisions (or lack of) are dictated by our past, our fears, our trust, etc. Rarely do I make a decision that hasn't been affected by something else. Much like an onion, there are layers. Though you may have to sit there and slowly peel back each layer (and shed some tears in the meantime), you might begin to understand what is really at the center of your decision.
I have begun to realize that if this holds true for me that it probably holds true for others. What may on the surface seem mean or rude or inconsiderate may come from a place of hurt, anger, sadness...
If this doesn't make sense, then at least you got to watch Shrek :)